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Expert Q&A
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| By Chris Crutcher Author, Licensed Child and Family Therapist | ||
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How do I talk to my stepdaughter about changes she will go through in middle school? I am worried about overstepping my boundaries with her. Can you help?
First figure out where she NEEDS help. You're right to be a little more "aware" with your stepdaughter, particularly if she has a mother some place doing the same thing. You want to have your standards, but you want them to clash as little as possible. Remember you can come out and ask about those boundaries you worry about overstepping. Set some between you. Let her help. You need razor sharp hearing to understand when she needs knowledge. Again, this is one where good books go a long way. There are all kinds of them out there. Nothing wrong with leaving a few of them sitting around.
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