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Costumes and Candy and Big Kids, Oh My!
Halloween for the Older Set By Kelly Burgess
Witmer says creating costumes, planning decorations and making funky Halloween-themed foods can be a terrific bonding experience for older children and their parents. She likes to make a Halloween-themed dinner such as eyeballs and worms (spaghetti and meatballs). Kids who may not generally like to help in the kitchen usually get a kick out of helping with something special, such as Halloween cupcakes or other unusual desserts.
Also, this connection isn't just for one night. It can go on for several weeks as preparations go forward. Witmer suggests getting the children involved in the decorating of the house and yard. Ask them what they'd like to do/eat/be this year, but start it out with concrete resources, such as something you've found on the Internet. Ask your child if they think that's a good idea (whether it is an idea for decorating or a costume) or whether they'd like to help you look at some other ideas. Older kids will feel important in the life of the household if they're involved in the decisions, even if it's just whether to put up a giant spider or turn the lawn into a graveyard.
Another important point Witmer makes is that Halloween is a great time to get to know your older child's friends or to get to know them better andhis friends' parents. She suggests perhaps a bonfire or a haunted house or walk created by the kids that the parents are all invited to attend.
"I've noticed my teenagers tend to talk to me more about their friends that I know," Witmer says. "Also, knowing their friends' parents better helps you stay connected with the people your child hangs out with, and that's important."
So relax and find your inner child this Halloween, while bonding with the outer child.
